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“1 out of every 10 people born is gay. That means 1 of every 10 people is instantly put down, given bad labels, left alone, put in a minority, and so much else, all for something they didn't ask for. Many gay children are going to commit suicide as a way of escaping.” This is a message going around the interwebs and is one that is very important to me. I am one of the 1 of 10.

I am now the adult version of one of those children forced to endure the bulling, teasing and tormenting from other children and adults who lashed out due to their fears of their ignorance. I am one of the ones that made it through those desperate times.

Mere words cannot convey the anguish that these kids are going through. Adolescence is tough for everyone; there are so many changes in life in general. For our LGBT youth it’s even harder because they’re also struggling with sexual identity issues that for the majority of them they have no resources to educate themselves. For those youth who do have resources available it’s more often than not to frightening to avail themselves of those resources. Our LGBT youth struggle with fear, anxiety and confusion often let to deal with these issues alone. Add to that the outright hatred they are bombarded with on a daily basis in all forms of society – Kids at school, the parent, and influential adults who teach hate, the media, and right now with the public at large fighting over basic civil rights and whether or not LGBT people should have the right to marry. Think about all of the comments we casually hear every day that demean the LGBT community; now think about being 14 years old and realizing that you’re gay. It feels as if the entire world is against you and that there must be something “wrong” with you. It’s a terrifying and desperate mass of emotions that many have not been given the tools to be able to deal with. Many are left with thinking they have no other option other than to take their own life; to rid the world of their “wrongness” and tragically some do just that.

I am one of those LGBT youth. I am not a hero; I did nothing special; I merely survived. I am lucky. I felt that isolation and despair, I did consider suicide; I am lucky to have found some spark to push through those dark times.

This is a public plea to all that read this whether you are gay, straight, man, woman, black, white, purple, or green. Whoever you are PLEASE think about the messages you’re sending to our youth. It doesn’t matter what your personal beliefs are; these are our children and they are screaming for help, they are screaming with their very own lives. It's heartbreaking that it’s taken the tragedies of the past weeks for people to perk up and take notice, but here we are. We are now faced with a choice; the choice to allow our children to continue to suffer or to pick up the torch and each and every one of us to do what we can to effect change. No one person, no one voice can solve this problem; we all must participate. It’s up to each one of us individually to act so that all of us as a collective help our children thrive.

Public awareness has been made. For those of you who weren't aware that this is an issue, you are now. What will you do?
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Hey, I haven't been on LJ in a while. I wanted top check in and see what me SCA Peeps were saying about Crown.

I had a great time. It was great seeing everyone and if I'm remembering correctly the parties were fun ;-) I even had a blast running around doing land grab on Friday!

thanks to all for the fun times! See Ya next time...
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Hey all, I'm looking to share a room at 12th Night - anyone looking for a roomate? I'm not above bringing my air mattress and claiming floor space - let me know
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Yo all my peeps, I'll be offline untill Sunday afternoon/evening.
and for my SCA Peeps I'm looking for someone(s) to share a room at Collegium. I have reserved a upper floor level room with 2 queen beds to share or cancel and bunk with someone in their room (have airbed will travel!). Let me know and I'll respond when I get back. - Later!
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Can we has Coronet yet? Please! :-)
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So who's going to the Rapier Tourney this weekend? I'm thinking about day tripping.
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Looks like I may not be going to Estrella after all. A really good friend of mine needs back surgery (again) and I hold his medical directive... So as much as I want to go, I know you'll all agree that it's more important that I'm there for the surgery that to play in Arizona.

The surgery hasn't been scheduled yet, but I've got a feeling in my gut that it'll end up being that weekend; so I'm holding off making travel plans.

I'll keep you posted - please keep good thought for my friend.

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1. Where did you meet your mate?
Online - Yeah Yeah but it worked

2. What was the first thought that went through your head when you met?
"Oh my god he's so cute and so nervous"

3. Do you remember what he/she was wearing?
Jeans and a shirt

4. In what location did you kiss this person for the first time?
My livingroom

5. Where did you go for your first date?
Thai-rific for dinner, walked around downtown Mt. View, my place to watch Buffy, and then to the movies - Spiderman

6. How long did you know this person before you became a couple?
a week

7. How did he/she ask you out?
I asked him out

8. Do you and this person have kids together?
Three cats and a dog

9. Have you ever broken the law with this person?
Oh Yeah - in multiple states

10. When was the first time you realized that you liked this person?
Before we even met in person

11. Do you get along with his/her family?
Very well

12. Do you trust this person?

13. Do you see her/him as your partner in your future?
For the rest of my life (or his;-) )

14. What is the best gift she/he has given you?
His patience with me

15. What is one thing he/she does that gets on your nerves?
Talks though TV show that I like and he couldn't care less about

16. Where do you see yourselves 15 years from now?
Him a successful attorney and me retired

17. What causes you to argue the most?
when we both think we're right

18. How long have you been together?
6 1/2 years

19. Are you married?
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Legal Groups File Lawsuit Challenging Proposition 8, Should it Pass
Legal Papers Claim Initiative Procedure Cannot Be Used To Undermine the Constitution’s Core Commitment To Equality For Everyone

SAN FRANCISCO – The American Civil Liberties Union, Lambda Legal and the National Center for Lesbian Rights filed a writ petition before the California Supreme Court today urging the court to invalidate Proposition 8 if it passes. The petition charges that Proposition 8 is invalid because the initiative process was improperly used in an attempt to undo the constitution’s core commitment to equality for everyone by eliminating a fundamental right from just one group – lesbian and gay Californians. Proposition 8 also improperly attempts to prevent the courts from exercising their essential constitutional role of protecting the equal protection rights of minorities. According to the California Constitution, such radical changes to the organizing principles of state government cannot be made by simple majority vote through the initiative process, but instead must, at a minimum, go through the state legislature first.

The California Constitution itself sets out two ways to alter the document that sets the most basic rules about how state government works. Through the initiative process, voters can make relatively small changes to the constitution. But any measure that would change the underlying principles of the constitution must first be approved by the legislature before being submitted to the voters. That didn’t happen with Proposition 8, and that’s why it’s invalid.

“If the voters approved an initiative that took the right to free speech away from women, but not from men, everyone would agree that such a measure conflicts with the basic ideals of equality enshrined in our constitution. Proposition 8 suffers from the same flaw – it removes a protected constitutional right – here, the right to marry – not from all Californians, but just from one group of us,” said Jenny Pizer, a staff attorney with Lambda Legal. “That’s too big a change in the principles of our constitution to be made just by a bare majority of voters.”

“A major purpose of the constitution is to protect minorities from majorities. Because changing that principle is a fundamental change to the organizing principles of the constitution itself, only the legislature can initiate such revisions to the constitution,” added Elizabeth Gill, a staff attorney with the ACLU of Northern California.

The lawsuit was filed today in the California Supreme Court on behalf of Equality California and 6 same-sex couples who did not marry before Tuesday’s election but would like to be able to marry now.

The groups filed a writ petition in the California Supreme Court before the elections presenting similar arguments because they believed the initiative should not have appeared on the ballot, but the court dismissed that petition without addressing its merits. That earlier order is not precedent here.

“Historically, courts are reluctant to get involved in disputes if they can avoid doing so,” said Shannon Minter, Legal Director of NCLR. “It is not uncommon for the court to wait to see what happens at the polls before considering these legal arguments. However, now that Prop 8 may pass, the courts will have to weigh in and we believe they will agree that Prop 8 should never have been on the ballot in the first place.”

This would not be the first time the court has struck down an improper voter initiative. In 1990, the court stuck down an initiative that would have added a provision to the California Constitution stating that the “Constitution shall not be construed by the courts to afford greater rights to criminal defendants than those afforded by the Constitution of the United States.” That measure was invalid because it improperly attempted to strip California’s courts of their role as independent interpreters of the state’s constitution.

In a statement issued earlier today, the groups stated their conviction, which is shared by the California Attorney General, that the state will continue to honor the marriages of the 18,000 lesbian and gay couples who have already married in California. A copy of the statement as well as the writ petition filed today is available a www.aclu.org/lgbt, www.lambdalegal.org, and www.nclrights.org.

In addition to the ACLU, Lambda Legal and NCLR, the legal team bringing the writ also includes the Law Office of David C. Codell; Munger Tolles & Olson, LLP; and Orrick, Herrington & Sutcliffe, LLP.

The National Center for Lesbian Rights is a national legal organization committed to advancing the civil and human rights of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people and their families through litigation, public policy advocacy, and public education. www.nclrights.org

Lambda Legal is a national organization committed to achieving full recognition of the civil rights of lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, transgender people and those with HIV through impact litigation, education and public policy work. www.lambdalegal.org

The American Civil Liberties Union is America’s foremost advocate of individual rights. It fights discrimination and moves public opinion on LGBT rights through the courts, legislatures and public education. www.aclu.org

Founded in 1998, Equality California celebrates its 10th anniversary in 2008, commemorating a decade of building a state of equality in California. EQCA is a nonprofit, nonpartisan, grassroots-based, statewide advocacy organization whose mission is to achieve equality and civil rights of all lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) Californians. www.eqca.org
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There's not much to say that hasn't already been said. I'm disheartend that CA would vote discrimination into our constitution. I angry that I'm of the group being discriminated against. I'm nervous that they'll find away to void my marrige.

I am also proud of all of you and thankfull for all of your support on this issue. I was asked this morning if by knowing that this horid amendment would pass and "they" would be working to take away my rights, would I have done anything different (she was referring to being the first in the county and the marrige being so public) I answered "absolutely not."

So the fight is not over and there's still a slim chance that we'll defeat it. I'm hopeful, but not holding my breath.

Again, from the bottom of my heart, thank you all for your love and support. I'm a lucky man to have you in my life.

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